Has anyone ever seen the movie it’s a Mad Mad Mad Mad World? It’s one of my favorites. My favorite character, the one I love to hate, is the screeching mother-in-law, played wonderfully by Ethel Merman (she should have gotten the Oscar). All through the movie, she nags people constantly (everyone), always sticking her nose into other people’s business, berating them if they don’t comply with her wishes, and heaping on so much verbal abuse. At the end, she slipped on a banana peel in the prison infirmary and had to be taken away on a stretcher, bringing laughter to all those that she abused throughout the movie.
This was very much like an experience I had recently on a website for those who are same- sex attracted and try to remain faithful to the Lord (http://www.moorematt.org/) . I will not use her real name and so I will refer to her as the “Angry Activist”. I made a comment on accountability, my recent experience in church and that it was right that someone had held me accountable.
Uninvited, she asserted that the church had no right to hold me accountable and this was due to prejudice of the church and oppression. She also revealed how she is a black woman and not gay, but can empathize with me, because she was oppressed. I made the mistake of responding to her diatribe, and for that I became really sorry. She was really angry; that I had “betrayed” the LGBT community; much upset that I wouldn’t seek their representation; that I would dare to counsel youth who about being same sex attracted; and how dare I proselytize (which I didn’t).
I tried sharing my story on this site. I tried explaining that I wasn’t a victim. I tried explaining that by not being gay, she could never hope to represent me. I tried humor (actually I thought the comments about her needing Xanax were hilarious). I tried outreach. She would have none of this and took great exception to it.
Honestly, I hope Angry Activist finds peace in her life, as I found it in mine. I wish her well. She really needs Xanax though.